Ask your fiancé these 4 questions before you start wedding planning

You’re reading this because you’re about to start planning your wedding but you’ve heard stories about how much stress the entire process can put on couples.  But you don’t want that to happen with you and your boo so your first step before even looking at your preferred venues is to sit down with your partner and make sure you’re both on the same page. 

And that’s where I come in - I’m giving you 4 questions to guide the conversation you’ll want to have that will ensure you and your fiancé take that first step towards your dream wedding on the same page. So here goes - here are 4 important questions you should discuss before you start planning:

How much money do we actually have to spend on the wedding? And how much money will we be borrowing from family? 

I bring up the money because weddings are EXPENSIVE. You need to know where the money is coming from and where you can turn if the financial well suddenly runs dry. 

What pre-existing family conflicts are we both dealing with that may add extra stress to the wedding planning process? 

Let’s face it, we all deal with family conflict at some point or another, all on varying levels of difficulty. Communicate with each other early and often about any and all issues so that you two, together, can come up with a plan of action for dealing with them when they try to throw your wedding planning off track. 

What is the best way for me to communicate with you when we’re both feeling overwhelmed by life and pressured to make decisions? 

The way you communicate with each other will undoubtedly change during various times while planning your wedding because it’s something neither one of you has done before. So, if you know how to communicate during times of overwhelm/extreme pressure ahead of time, when those times come, you’ll be fully prepared. 

How involved do you want to be in the planning process? 

Do they want to be the one to find all the vendors, are they interested in attending every single meeting/being on every call with vendors, do they just want to know final prices and sign the checks - gauge how involved they want to be so that you can manage your expectations. Maybe they don’t want to be too involved initially because they have a lot going on at work, but they will be a bit more involved in the months leading up to the wedding. It’s important to talk it out and again, manage your expectations. 

My hope is that these 4 questions will help ensure that you and your fiancé are on the same page about your wedding planning journey and that you will be fully prepared to deal with some of the situations that undoubtedly arise throughout the wedding planning process!